Tuesday, January 17, 2012
How to Know when I am REALLY in Love and When do I pursue a girl?
A lot of people are asking, “How do I know if it is really love?” This is such a tricky question because the heart is deceitful above all things. Some of us have that mushy feeling towards a girl and then find out later after a month that the girl has some flaws, that we could actually change our minds instantly.
Some men once they are able to get the girl in bed instantly changes. The once sweet guy would no longer call or show up.
So how do you know that you are really in love?
The basic problem we have is that we equate love with feelings. Love is an emotion I know BUT love is also a decision. You don’t love base solely on feelings. That is why divorce rate and annulment cases are high because we feel that we have lost that loving feeling. We can’t live on that premise. Living on that premise that love is a feeling would imply that I could also leave my daddy duties when I don’t feel like loving my kids, or commit adultery legally because I don’t have feelings for my wife.
The world’s system has taught us to love with just our emotions. Look where it has gotten us into. Affairs, broken marriages, teen pregnancy, AIDS and the like.
LOVE IS A DECISION. We decide to love the girl we are going to marry. And that is how you know if you are ready. Are you willing to marry the girl you are pursuing. If you are not even thinking about marriage, forget courting a girl it is a waste of her time.
LOVE IS A DECISION which also means that when I court a girl, I have a game plan. I don’t just court the girl because I want to but I am going to lead her. The problem is most men can’t even lead themselves and they put other girls into their mess.Ladies you have to be discerning. You can’t fall for the charms or the looks – ask the guy his game plan.
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