Monday, September 26, 2011

I want a DIVORCE!


Dear Wife,

I’m writing you this letter to tell you that I’m leaving you forever. I’ve been a good man to you for 7 years & I have nothing to show for it. These last 2 weeks have been hell.

Your boss called to tell me that you quit your job today & that was the last straw. Last week, you came home & didn’t even notice I had a new haircut, had cooked your favorite meal & even wore a brand new pair of silk boxers. You ate in 2 minutes, & went straight to sleep after watching all of your soaps. You don’t tell me you love me anymore; you don’t want sex or anything that connects us as husband & wife. Either you’re cheating on me or you don’t love me anymore; whatever the case, I’m gone.

Your EX-Husband

P.S. don’t try to find me. Your SISTER & I are moving away to West Virginia together!
Have a great life!


Dear Ex-Husband

Nothing has made my day more than receiving your letter.

It’s true you & I have been married for 7 years, although a good man is a far cry from what you’ve been. I watch my soaps so much because they drown out your constant whining & griping Too bad that doesn’t work. I DID notice when you got a hair cut last week, but the 1st thing that came to mind was ‘You look just like a girl!’ Since my mother raised me not to say anything if you can’t say something nice, I didn’t comment. And when you cooked my favorite meal, you must have gotten me confused with MY SISTER, because I stopped eating pork 7 years ago. About those new silk boxers: I turned away from you because the $49.99 price tag was still on them, & I prayed it was a coincidence that my sister had just borrowed $50 from me that morning.

After all of this, I still loved you & felt we could work it out. So when I hit the lotto for 10 million dollars, I quit my job & bought us 2 tickets to Jamaica But when I got home you were gone.. Everything happens for a reason, I guess.

I hope you have the fulfilling life you always wanted. My lawyer said that the letter you wrote ensures you won’t get a dime from me.

So take care.

Your Ex-Wife, Rich As Hell & Free!

P.S. I don’t know if I ever told you this, but my sister Carla was born Carl.

I hope that’s not a problem.. ;P

Thursday, September 22, 2011

LDR Argument 101

How to handle long distance arguments?

It’s going to happen eventually if you haven’t had an argument already. Having an argument long distance is not easy. There are certain things you should and should not do in an argument.

1. Don’t hang up the phone.  As tempting as it might be, this is the worst thing you could possibly do. It is disrespectful and in my opinion no one deserves it. Try to stick it out. Make a promise to each other that you will not hang up the phone.

2. Don’t interrupt. Take turns explaining your points, and hear the other person

3.  Actually listen to what they are saying and don’t think about why they are wrong or prepare how you are going to argue what they are saying, just listen. Don’t dismiss their points even if you think they are downright wrong. Show them some respect, if you want respect in return.

4.  Tell them how you feel not what they did. Say how they made you feel. For example, “I feel like I’m low priority in your busy life.” Instead of, “You make hanging out with me a lower priority than hanging out with your friends.” The difference? Using the second sentence is going to make them feel defensive and they are only going to argue with you. Telling them how it makes you feel will be a lot more effective.

5.  Try to find a compromise. Agree on something you’re both comfortable with even if it means not getting exactly what either of you want. It’s better than not getting what you want at all.

6. Don’t use the cold shoulder technique. This is just as bad as hanging up. Giving someone the cold shoulder (aka. not speaking to them) is only going to make things worse. You’re not going to get any happier, and they aren’t either.  And it’s not going to make them come crawling to you for forgiveness and give you what you want (the usual motive, whether the person doing the ignoring will admit to that or not). Just don’t do it.

7.  Don’t put off conflict. Handle the issue ASAP. Get it over and done with. The longer it lingers, the longer it will be affecting your relationship in a negative way.

8. Don’t create an argument. Sometimes people will get frustrated with the distance and make a big deal about something small that probably wouldn't usually bother them. Avoid creating an argument in the first place and you’ll save yourself a lot trouble. If you are frustrated with the distance, talk about it with your boyfriend/girlfriend. Venting about what you’re really upset with is better than getting into a heated argument about something unrelated.

9. Avoid having an argument online. If you start to argue, it is better to talk it out, instead of instant messaging. The last thing you need is to be misinterpreted.

*** thanks to Michelle and Frank for these helpful tips! Visit their website at for more details

Saturday, September 17, 2011

Waiting for God's Best

I pray to GOD—my life a prayer—and wait for what he’ll say and do. My life’s on the line before God, my Lord, waiting and watching till morning, waiting and watching till morning. - Psalm 130:5-6, The Message


I’m often asked how I remain patient with God’s plan for my life when I’m still single. I’ve talked so much about it, it’s no secret—eventually I want to get married. The truth is that there have been many moments when I’ve been tired of waiting for the right guy to arrive. My mum challenged me once. “You need to let go and trust God with this,” she said. I started tearing up. She was right. I asked, “How do you let go of something so important?”
Relinquishing this to God has been quite a process, but I don’t want anything for myself that God doesn’t want for me. Where are the joy and abundant life in settling for something that He doesn’t desire for my life? Releasing this was incredibly freeing. I still believe God will grant me this desire, but I will trust God either way. Until you come to that place of abandonment, the grass always looks greener on the other side. If you can’t surrender something of such importance, the danger is that when it comes you will cling to it and suffocate it, and you may end up hurting the very thing you have longed for. I now feel that I will be able to go into marriage as a whole person.  A better prayer than “God, when will You bring the special guy into my life?” is “God, I don’t know what You have in mind for my future . . . but I await whatever it is expectantly, knowing that You know me better than I even know myself.” I don’t want any less than what God has in mind. I want the best that He has in mind.

Looking Further

Have you ever waited for something so long that when it actually happened it wasn’t nearly as exciting as you hoped it would be? Have you ever longed to open a Christmas gift, and after you did, felt disheartened? Have you ever anticipated an event but when the big day arrived, you were less than overwhelmed?  Have you ever had a dream so vivid and incredible that when you woke up you were disappointed to discover it wasn’t real life?  These experiences can be really frustrating. We certainly don’t want our expectations to let us down in marriage, and if we’re not careful, we can live in a fantasy world concerning wedded bliss that can never be realized in true life. On the other hand, God’s plans for us may be far beyond what we have imagined for ourselves. The prophet Isaiah spoke these words:
Since the world began, no ear has heard, and no eye has seen a God like you, who works for those who wait for him! You welcome those who gladly do good, who follow godly ways. (Isa. 64:4-5, NLT)
The key while we wait on Him, Isaiah says, is to continue to walk with God, getting on with life and doing good.

Living It Out

Have you placed your life and your future completely in God’s hands? If not, as you have your palms open and facing the ground, tell God that you want to relinquish your personal desires. Then turn your opened palms over so that they face heaven, and tell your Father that you surrender your future to His will for your life. It’s a scary prayer, but one that God will certainly honor.

Excerpted from Pure Copyright © 2008 by Rebecca St. James.

Mr. "Right Choice" or Mr. "Right Now"?

At least half of all marriages in today’s society are speeding down the highway to divorce, say the statistics. It's becoming clear that many who enter marriage don’t have enough gas for the trip. In fact, the majority of couples spend much more time planning a five-hour wedding than they do preparing to live under the same roof with another imperfect person for the rest of their lives!
In Luke 14:28 Jesus says, “‘Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Will he not first sit down and estimate the cost to see if he has enough money to complete it?’” Jesus was talking about the cost of being one of His disciples, but the principle can apply to anything we think about committing ourselves to. He’s saying that if you haven’t planned for it, saved up for it, and figured out a way to finish it, don’t do it. Yet couple after couple trot down the aisle to the altar, never giving much thought to the seriousness and difficulty of building their lives together and completing the project until “death do us part.” To these well-meaning couples, everything about marriage sounds ideal. Then after the first year, they realize it’s actually an ordeal. Three years down the road they're tired of what they’ve got and are looking for a new deal!
But this does not have to be the pattern for you if you'll count the cost now and plan ahead for what happens after dum-dum-dee-dum. Here are a few marriage myths many of us believe:
Marriage will give me a purpose for living.
Marriage will give me the unconditional love I need and deserve for the rest of my life.
Marriage will give me all the sex I want.
Marriage will medicate all the pains of singleness and will solve my deepest longings.
These lies that you tell yourself will only set you up for a huge letdown. Even the best marriages do not provide these unreasonable expectations. Only Jesus can fill those deep longings for unconditional love and purpose. Only Jesus can heal your pain and make you whole—not another person!
Ask yourself these questions:
Have I put God's agenda for my life above my own desires, whether that be for sex, money, fame or relationships?
Have I dealt with my deepest insecurities and sins with Him alone?
Am I willing to honestly “test the soil” of my potential Mr. or Ms. Right's character before I say, "I do?"
Will I actively wait or incessantly whine until God brings me His best?
And lastly, will I settle for Mr. or Ms. “Right Now” or wait for Mr. or Ms. “Right Choice?”
Here’s the truth. If you want to have an above average marriage that will stand the test of time, it will take a lot of hard work both on the relationship, and on your own character. If you want to receive God’s best choice of a mate for you, then you must become God’s best for someone else. Begin today to put these truths into practice, and in both life and relationships, you will for sure have enough gas for the trip!

By Christopher Burge and Pamela ToussaintBuy the book His Rules: God's Practical Road Map for Becoming and Attracting Mr. or Mrs. Right

FEU 2011 UAAP Cheerdance Routine

***thanks to 'fotomacder' for uploading the video :)

UST 2011 UAAP Cheerdance Routine

***thanks to 'fotomacder' for uploading the video :)

UP Pep Squad 2011 UAAP Cheerdance Routine

U-nibersidad ng Pilipinas!  
U-nibersidad ng Pilipinas!  
U-nibersidad ng Pilipinas!  

UP Fight!

Samsung Stunner, Group Stunts, UAAP Cheerdance Champion = UP


Congrats UP Pep Squad! I'm one proud Iska!

***thanks to 'fotomacder' for uploading the video :)

Friday, September 16, 2011

UP Fight!

U-nibersidad ng Pilipinas!
U-nibersidad ng Pilipinas!
U-nibersidad ng Pilipinas!

I'm so excited to watch the UAAP Cheerdance Competition today! Though I wasn't able to purchase a ticket to watch it live at Araneta, I'll definitely be cheering for my ALMA MATER  later! Loud and proud Iskolar ng Bayan!

UP Fight! UP fight! UP Fight!

*UAAP 2011 Cheerdance Competition will start at 3pm, airing will be at 3pm as well at Studio 23!

Self - Control

My Daughter,

I have given you the spirit of power so that you can direct your steps in the path of righteousness.  Your body is the temple of My Spirit, so lend yourself to the things that please Me.  Don't allow your impulses or your emotions to rule your life, but rather give yourself over to Me and let My Spirit empower you to live a life for Me. 


Above all else, guard your heart, for it affects everything you do. - Proverbs 4:23

Yey Yakimix!

I had a sumptuous lunch today! Thanks to my Non- Alco Family! *apir*

Asia Brewery Non Alco Team
Attendance :
1. Abe aka 'The Financier' lol
2. Jef aka  'Advance Happy 1 Year' Celebrant
3. Jay aka 'Birthday Boy'
4. Karlene aka 'Belated Happy 1st Year' Celebrant
5. Eric aka 'Welcome to ABI!'
6. Dan aka 'Welcome to ABI!'
7. Eli aka 'Birthday Girl'

And yes, our 2-hour lunch was held in no other than YAKIMIX! 
Yakimix Greenbelt

We went to Greenbelt around 11am and finished eating at nearly 2pm. 

It was a sort of celebration of many things - birthdays and anniversaries are some of those :)

And believe it or not, I ate a lot! With this body, yes I can eat even more! *evil laugh*

Round 1 : Hello SUSHI!
A lavishing sushi platter : 
* California Maki
* Tuna Flakes Warship
* Kappa Maki
* Tamaga Kenchi Maki
* Unagi Temaki
* Spicy Salmon Maki
* Spider Maki
*Salmon Sashimi

Round 2 : Mix and Match!
A mixture of everything : 
* Japanese Tempura
* Garlic Chicken
* Korean Chap Chae
* Kimchi
* Togue
* Spinach
* Seafood Tofu
* Shioga Yaki Pork

Round 3 : The Healthy Me!
* Barbecue Chicken Stick
* Lettuce Salad
* Fruit Salad
* Macaroni Salad
* Papaya

Round 4 : Dessert Time!

* Fruit Tart
* Blueberry Cheese Cake
* Macaroon's 
* Choco Mouse Cake

Round 5 : Ice Ice Ice cream!

* Chocolate Flavor
* Double Dutch Flavor
 with marshmallows, M&M's and Chocolate Drops

I had 5 rounds! I didn't even count those that we cooked on our table!

And yeah, I ate A LOT!

One funny thing that we experienced as well was the 'Happy Birthday' Song that was being played once every after 5 minutes in each table (too many September celebrants huh).

Thanks to J and Eli's birthdays that we became competitive vs the nearby tables... and the result? We got free 'birthday cakes' though the candle is transferable :p haha 
Happy Birthday J and Eli!

After eating for 2 hours and being completely FULL, still I was able to strike a pose on our way back to the office. Guess where all these food go? 

*I don't really know... I just hope my 90-lbs weight will be improved soon...

Thursday, September 15, 2011

From Battle Scars to Beauty Marks

"I have sunk in my own moments of despair. I have weathered many storms and have known deep sorrow. I have felt helpless and in the dark.  The beauty of the gospel is that when we are at our end, the Lord is just beginning. Water turns into wine, blind men see and stones roll away.  He brings a word, a letter, a person, a song, a new day. He finds a way to snatch us from our pit to put us back on the path of His promises.  We need only to keep our hands open so He could slip His love in and lead us on to a Higher ground."

-From Battle Scars to Beauty Marks

Where The Love Lasts Forever - Hillsong

Your mercy found me,
Upon the broken road,
And lifted me beyond my failing,
Into Your glory,
My sin and shame dissolved,
And now forever Yours I’ll stand.

In love never to end,
To call You more than Lord,
Glorious friend.

So I throw my life upon all You are,
‘Cause I know You gave it all for me,
And when all else fades,
My soul will dance with You,
Where the love lasts forever.

Your mercy found me,
Upon the broken road,
And lifted me beyond my failing,
Into Your glory,
My sin and shame dissolved,
And now forever Yours I’ll stand.

And forever I will sing,
Lord forever I will sing,
Of how You gave Your life away,
Just to save me, Lord You saved me.

With You, where the love lasts forever.

What it feels like living in BIG SISTER's HOUSE

view from outside : newly painted gate
I've been living in this so called 'Big Sister House' for more than a year now.  My housemates and I coined those words to simply mimic the  life inside Big Brother's House - the famous reality TV show which became a hit in the Philippines.

It can mirror the lives we have in this house. For tons of reasons, I believe :

1. We have a real 'Big Sister' - not very visible but kinda strict like 'Kuya'
2. We have different personalities, we work in different fields and we have a lot of stories to share
3. Though we don't often see each other, we know we care for each other (that's why quality time simply bond us together)
4. .... and many other reasons...

first floor, we also have a terrace
at the second floor
How I discovered this place was such a blessing. It became my 2nd home in Makati. Quite near to my work place and very accessible to malls, supermarkets and other food chains.

But entering in this house is like a reality show  - in a way we have to audition. Big Sister needs to see if you are qualified and from there you need to give all the requirements. It's like applying for a second job.

Qualifications : Working girls only, 22 to 30 years old

Requirements :
     *1 pc 2x2 picture
     *photocopy of any 2 of the following (driver's license, company ID, postal ID, SSS, Passport, postal ID, etc)

And yeah, we're lucky we got in (not all who 'auditioned' were accepted...) and the journey begins. Similar to Big Brother's House, we also live in Big Sister's house full of "house rules" and when I say house rules, I mean a lot. Let me enumerate some :
dining room

1. BOYS are not allowed : Yeah, strictly for girls only, so if you dare come, make sure to wear your best wig and dress.

2. Some visitors are only allowed in the sala : Well, we need to ask permission first from Big Sister or at least give a heads up, and yeah they can't enter in our rooms.

3. Laundry is not allowed. We have like 8 comfort rooms in Big Sister House but we cannot do our laundry. So no choice but to have it washed in the laundry shop. Good thing Ate Angie, helper from my neighborhood can hand-wash my clothes as I don't really like sending my clothes to the laundry shop. I tried it for three years and it was not really helpful, especially for the branded ones.

4. Cooking is not allowed. Yes, I eat outside every single day and I'm craving for a good home-made food. I need to eat a healthy one - without preservatives and MSG please...I don't know the reason behind it, but I still thank God for the water dispenser. Haha, at least we have cold and hot water 24/7.

mini bar

5. Tons of house rules posted everywhere. Aside from those 'mutually'-agreed house rules, we also have those which are posted in some key areas in the house. 
a) Silence please
b) Always lock the door
c) Don't leave your trash here
...  and many others

Hello Sunny! beside my
housemate's room
I don't know why given all these rules I still choose to stay here... maybe I just love the atmosphere. I like the place being so homey. And yes, very safe as compared to other places I scouted before. And yes, I love my housemates. 

I'm just wondering for more than a year of stay here, it seems like I had the most number of neighbors (in the room beside mine). They are not evicted but I think the people who have stayed in that room had the tendency to move out earlier. If I am not mistaken, 5 people left already - for reasons I don't know.

As to how long I'll stay here? - that I don't know. So for now, I have to go up and down on our 15-step stairs everyday just to go to my room : And that I called an instant 'exercise'


James 5 :16 The earnest prayer of a righteous
 person has great power and wonderful results
My Daughter/Son, 

Communication with you is important to My relationship with you.  I love it when you talk to Me about your life, your hopes and your dreams.  Pray without ceasing, for I am always here to listen and to respond to your prayers.  I enjoy the time you spend with Me in prayer  - earnest prayer for a need you have, prayers of thanksgiving and praise, and times when you simply want to talk to Me. You can pray at any time.  You don't need an invitation or a formal occasion to pray.  Just come to Me; I am always here waiting for you.  


Monday, September 12, 2011

You Make Everything Beautiful

Grant me serenity to accept things
The things I cannot change
Grant me the courage, Lord, to change what I can
Wisdom to know the difference
In my weakness You can shine
In Your strength I can fly and

                                      You make everything, everything beautiful
                                      You make everything, everything new
                                      You make everything, everything beautiful
                                      In its time, in Your time
                                      It’s beautiful

Grant me serenity, Lord, and patience
For things will take time
Grant me freedom to walk a new path
And let me feel Your love
In my weakness You can shine
In Your strength I can fly and

                                      You make everything, everything beautiful
                                      You make everything, everything new
                                      You make everything, everything beautiful
                                      In its time, in Your time
                                      It’s beautiful

Lifting open hands to You my Savior
Beautify my soul
Knowing You redeem my pain and failure
Purify my soul
Beautify my soul

                                      You make everything, everything beautiful
                                      You make everything, everything new
                                      You make everything, everything beautiful
                                      In its time, in Your time
                                      It’s beautiful

Joshua 1:8

This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success.

Want to know the secret of having a prosperous and successful life? Read Joshua 1:8,  a very familiar verse in the Bible - a command with a greater promise.

We often neglect this and look for things which can make us successful outwardly. We look externally not  considering the most important thing - the Word of God.  Take time to read the Bible and see the magnificent things the Lord has to offer. 

This book is everything  - whatever you need is written here. It takes us one step to begin, so when will you start reading?


It's 4am and I still can't sleep... so I just decided to visit my blog and write something.  The topic at church last Sunday is indeed an eye-opening for me. It reminded me of the "many" things I tend to forget and historically has been neglecting.  

I think this is the best time to think, ponder and reflect. This is the best time to have that 'quiet time' again. I'm sure there's a reason why I woke up at the middle of the night. As much as I want to go back to bed and sleep, there is this force that keeps saying 'stay awake, stay awake'... and so here I am, writing.

I've been wanting to really have that time to reflect. I once told a friend that I just need to have a long hour ride,  sitting on a bus, seeing trees and stuff, going nowhere.  I just need that time alone, my 'ME-time' cause all I want to do is to think and reflect. Deeply. 

Why is there a need for reflection? I think that moment in life where you need to stop for a while, take some time off of your busy life and ponder about things is necessary to assess who you are now and what have you become. Having a time for reflection is like facing a mirror and seeing your real yourself - no inhibitions, no pretensions, just the REAL you.

It has been  9 long years... from the day I started my relationship with You. And like any other relationship, I want THIS to last. Things have changed but I want a portion of my old self to be back again.


Saturday, September 10, 2011

Seven signs of PEKENG LOVE

LOVESTRUCK : Love mo siya? Sure ka ba?
By Ronald Molmisa

What many young people consider love may only be infatuation.  Infatuation is an intense, short-lived and irrational passion for somebody.  Madalas apektado ang pag-iisip ng nakakaramdam nito.  To further explain the qualities of infatuation, here are it's seven major signs :


Sikat ang mga commercials ng AXE cologne sa buong mundo.  Ang mensahe nito : Mababaliw at mahuhumaling ang mga babae sa mga lalaking gumagamit nito. Dahil sa bango ng AXE, nawawala sa sarili nilang bait ang mga babe at susundan kahit sa kailaliman ng dagat ang Adonis na gumagamit ng mala-gayumang pabango.  Pagdating sa pag-ibig, kalimitang nakatuon sa pisikal ang mga nararamdaman ng infatuation.  Hindi lang sa amoy, kung hindi sa higit na nakikita.  Infatuation focuses on the physical traits, nagustuhan dahil sa dimples, maputing balat, kasingkitan ang mga mata (lalo na sa mga nahuhumaling sa Korean boy bands), mapuputing ngipin o kaya ay dahil sa mala-Mark Herras sumayaw.
Nagugustuhan ng mga infatuated ang isang tao dahil sa kanyang mga piling katangian.  Pero dahil walang taong perpekto, makakakita sila ng ikadidismaya.  Kabilang sila sa UY... AY Group.  Sa ga boys : "Uy ang ganda niya...AY may bad odor pala?" Sa mga girls : "UY ang cute nya... AY bad breath pala!" Matapos makita ang kahinaan at masamang katangian ng nagugustuhan, nawawala ang paghangang nararamdaman.


Infatuation starts and ends fast.  Bakit?  Kasi nagbabago ang mga nararamdaman ng mga infatuated ayon sa kondisyon ng emosyon nila.  Sa simula,  napakatindi ng spark ng pag-ibig.  Laging may stars sa mga mata.  Tatawirin ang isang libong kabundukan, mapasaya lang ang minamahal.  Magtatalunan ang mga hormones sa kanyang katawan at kayang ipagsigawan sa buong mundo na mahal na mahal niya ang kanyang partner.  Pero matapos ang ilang araw o linggo, lubos na nakikilala ang iniirog.  Sasabihin sa sarili : "Hindi na sia ang dating nagustuhan ko. Nagbago na siya".  Ang resulta : Ayawan na! Ayawan na! Ayawan na! Parang isang batang nakikipaglaro at kapag naasar dahil siya lagi ang taya, iiwan ang mga kalaro at uuwi ng bahay. Ang mga infatuated, kapag hindi na nag-i-enjoy, unti-unting mawawala ang interes sa relasyon.


Infatuation can make a person disorganized, distracted and ineffective. Sabog ang isip mo. Kapag infatuated ka kasi, halos lahat ng tingnan mo, feeling mo naroon siya. Tumingin ka sa langit, mukha niya ang makikita mo sa ulap. Kumain ka sa canteen, ngiti nya ang makikita mo sa pinggan mo.  Hanggang sa kalye, mukha niya ang naaaninag mo sa billboards at posters.  In short, hibang na hibang ka. Hindi mo na iniintindi ang mga nasa paligid.  Ang mahalaga sa iyo ay lagi kang masaya.


Infatuated people often isolate themselves from others.  Umiikot ang buhay ng magkasintahan sa kanilang dalawa lamang.  Walang makapaghihiwalay sa kanila.  Kahit saan magpunta, laging magkasama at HHWWPSSP (Holding Hands While Walking Pa-Sway Sway Pa) - sa school, sa mall, sa park, sa pagbili sa tindahan, kahit minsan sa pagpunta sa CR.  They tend to lose interest in things that used to motivate them.  Binibitiwan na kasi nila ang dating pinagkakaabalahan at nakatuon na lamang sa karelasyon.  Hindi na napapansin at nabibigyan ng sapat na atensyon ang mga ibang mahal sa buhay.  Kung dati rati'y laging present sa family affairs, ngayon kailangan pang itanong sa BF/GF kung pwede silang sumama.  Dahil meron ng beloved, hindi na rin madalas sumama sa activities ng dating mga kabarkada.


Kung peke ang pag-ibig, madali itong mawala kapag magkalayo ang mag-partner.  Mababaw ang pundasyon ng relasyon dahil nakatuon sa pisikal na aspeto.  Kapag hindi na nakikita, nahahawakan o nakakausap ang partner, unti-unting manlalamig ang damdamin hanggang sa mawalan na ng interes.  Pero ang tunay na pagmamahal ay hindi kayang patayin ng distansya.  Kahit ilang taon pa kayong hindi nagkita, kung talagang tunay ang inyong nararamdaman, gagawin ninyo ang lahat para mapanatili ang pagtingin ninyo sa isa't isa.


Madaling nasisira ang relasyon ng mga infatuated sa mga simpleng away at tampuhan.  Dahil laging may LQ (Lover's Quarrel), unti-unting natutuyo ang damdamin. Nag-aaway dahil hindi magkasundo sa maliliit na bagay (e.g. hindi tinext, hindi nagustuhan ang gupit ng isa o nakalimutang magsabi ng "I LOVE YOU").  Ang mga hindi pagkakaunawaan ay dahil sa pagiging self-centered.  Sa isip ng bawat isa : Ako muna bago ikaw! Hindi rin maiwasan na makapagbitiw ng masasakit na salita.  Pagkatapos ng away, parang mga batang magbabati.  Pero sa halip na mapatibay ang relasyon, unti-unting nanlalamig ang damdamin sa bawat isa.  Ang laging pag-aaway ay tanda ng lumalaking lamat sa relasyon.  Kung gusto ng makipagbreak ng isa sa kanila, no big deal.  


May pagka-possessive ang mga infatuated.  Ayaw na ayaw na mawala sa paningin nila ang kanilang partner.  Jealousy becomes part of the relationship.  Natatakot kasi na mabaling ang atensyon ng partner sa iba.  Parang sinasabi sa ka-partner : "Gusto kong lumigaya ka, pero wag ka nang titingin sa iba.  Kailangan ako lang sa buhay mo."  Hindi lang tao ang pinagseselosan. Kahit ang mga bagay o gawain na umaagaw ng atensyon ng partner, pinagdidiskitahan din?